As long as you gave it your best, nothing to feel bad about.
Your musings get me back to my 'consumed to thrifty' thoughts as related to time/work rather than money
My best moments lately have been idle ones or should I say trips to museums.
They broadened up my perspective
Wish I could join you in Leeds which I never visited.
Serge
'The French Guy from New Jersey'
Marie-Aude
· 1 year ago
One of the things I learned in my "multi cultural experiences" (from France to the States, from the States to Germany, from Germany to Morocco... different countries, but I'd say as diverse as yours) is the different ways of saying things.
Or let's say it is something I'm still learning...
A commitment is not worded the same way in Germany or in Morocco, and the strength of a "yes" is not the same. As everyone knows what a "Ja" means, that's fine. But a "naam" is totally different. As Moroccan are not as structured as Germans, actually a "naam" might means "hell, never, but I can't say without being impolite", or "maybe" or sometimes, the same thing as a "ja".
I agree with you our expectations are not only cultural, they also depends of what we ask from ourselves. Someone very demanding with herself will be also with other people, and someone who sticks to her words will expect others to do so. They usually do, the question is just "to which words" ...
I'm not sure you should reduce your expectations, per se. Maybe you should word them more strongly, and when you get a commitment from someone, just repeat him what you said here... or direct him to this post.
In such cases, the stress-killer is the magical "fall back situation". My husband, who is totally Moroccan and therefore quite fatalist (the famous Inch Allah) gets totally crazy at all my "worst case planning". And he points that what I call "worst case" is precisely what I won't plan, coz when I found a solution for a problem, it won't be a worst case (pas très sure de mon anglais sur ce coup là, pas vraiment l'impression d'être claire...) Nevertheless this "ok, what can I do if this happens ?" helps me a lot to reduce stress.
Even if the answer is : OK, if this happens, everything is screwed up, and I just have to commit suicide... at least I know it !
Many things can be replaced, done differently, have less quality. Not all, and not all at the same time, but it helps to decide in advance on what we can compromise.
I worked on several big projects on Germany, and we were implementing software in different countries. I noticed the Germans had a "over quality" approach, when the French were just "managing it". At the end, when you saw the French implementation and the German one, both working, the question was "Is the cost of the high German quality justified ? Did the French better because they saved 20% of the cost for 5% of the quality ? "
Actually, not an easy question, because it all depends of the cost of a failure that would have been prevented by the higher quality.
And we go back to risk aversion...
I have a lot of admiration for all you do, and how you do it. You develop yourself and your business, and you started, as I understood, from a position of a teacher, which is not exactly the best place to get experience for self-entrepreneurship. You already made a first event all alone, from scratch, very quickly, and it was a success. So the second one will be the same.
Serge Lescouarnec
· 1 year ago
Marie-Aude
A year or two ago, someone was making a presentation and ripped their suit just before. Their comment: things can be fixed, people cannot or might not...
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Stephanie
Keep your head up
As long as you gave it your best, nothing to feel bad about.
Your musings get me back to my 'consumed to thrifty' thoughts as related to time/work rather than money
My best moments lately have been idle ones or should I say trips to museums.
They broadened up my perspective
Wish I could join you in Leeds which I never visited.
Serge
'The French Guy from New Jersey'
One of the things I learned in my "multi cultural experiences" (from France to the States, from the States to Germany, from Germany to Morocco... different countries, but I'd say as diverse as yours) is the different ways of saying things.
Or let's say it is something I'm still learning...
A commitment is not worded the same way in Germany or in Morocco, and the strength of a "yes" is not the same. As everyone knows what a "Ja" means, that's fine. But a "naam" is totally different. As Moroccan are not as structured as Germans, actually a "naam" might means "hell, never, but I can't say without being impolite", or "maybe" or sometimes, the same thing as a "ja".
I agree with you our expectations are not only cultural, they also depends of what we ask from ourselves. Someone very demanding with herself will be also with other people, and someone who sticks to her words will expect others to do so. They usually do, the question is just "to which words" ...
I'm not sure you should reduce your expectations, per se. Maybe you should word them more strongly, and when you get a commitment from someone, just repeat him what you said here... or direct him to this post.
In such cases, the stress-killer is the magical "fall back situation".
My husband, who is totally Moroccan and therefore quite fatalist (the famous Inch Allah) gets totally crazy at all my "worst case planning".
And he points that what I call "worst case" is precisely what I won't plan, coz when I found a solution for a problem, it won't be a worst case (pas très sure de mon anglais sur ce coup là, pas vraiment l'impression d'être claire...)
Nevertheless this "ok, what can I do if this happens ?" helps me a lot to reduce stress.
Even if the answer is : OK, if this happens, everything is screwed up, and I just have to commit suicide... at least I know it !
Many things can be replaced, done differently, have less quality. Not all, and not all at the same time, but it helps to decide in advance on what we can compromise.
I worked on several big projects on Germany, and we were implementing software in different countries. I noticed the Germans had a "over quality" approach, when the French were just "managing it". At the end, when you saw the French implementation and the German one, both working, the question was "Is the cost of the high German quality justified ? Did the French better because they saved 20% of the cost for 5% of the quality ? "
Actually, not an easy question, because it all depends of the cost of a failure that would have been prevented by the higher quality.
And we go back to risk aversion...
I have a lot of admiration for all you do, and how you do it. You develop yourself and your business, and you started, as I understood, from a position of a teacher, which is not exactly the best place to get experience for self-entrepreneurship. You already made a first event all alone, from scratch, very quickly, and it was a success. So the second one will be the same.
Marie-Aude
A year or two ago, someone was making a presentation and ripped their suit just before.
Their comment: things can be fixed, people cannot or might not...
Serge
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